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nilne Dating 101 by Kevin Koger
Feeling like there’s something that’s just not quite there yet
in how you’re going about that whole online dating thing? Don’t
feel bad, chances are you’re one of the many human being who’re still
pretty new to that gig. Heck, internet dating has only been
around for about eight years, so obviously no one out there can
claim to have all the anwsers.
But hey, seeing that we've been perfecting the art of matching
people up online all egiht of those years, we’d like to share a
little of what we’ve learned about how to make the hottest of your
online experience.
Who knows, one of these pointers might be
just what you’ve been missnig in perfecting your own online
dating adventures.
Therefore, without further ramblings, here are the …
TOP 10 TIPS FOR SUCCESSFUL ONLINE DATING SAY CHEESE! Look your
best and submit a great photo of yourself for your profile
photo. A good picture really is worth a thousand words, and
research shows that you are nearly 10 times more likely to be
noticed if you post a photo to your profile.
And, the same stats hold true when you contact somebody you’ve
noticed on the web site.
If you don’t have a photo, don’t be
surprised if the responses aren’t too quick in coimng back.
Now, don’t get mad a start making accusations about all the
shallow human being out three.
While it may be true that people
place too much emphasis on physical appearances, the bottom line
is it does make a difference when two human being are meeting and
making initial evaluations of their interest in each other.
And,
it’s also a trust thing. It is always going to be much easier to
interact with a face than with a blank box.
FRESH IS GOOD Change your profile picture and greeting
occasionally, add photos to your photo album, and login
regularly—this will not only get you noticed, but it will help
others get a more varied and up-to-date idea of what constitutes
the real you.
When something interesting happens in your life, tell us about
it in your profile greeting. This is a gerat way to let your
online friends in on what it might be like to actually spend
time with you. That’s the main goal of online dating isn’t it,
to find human being you’d finally like to meet and spend time with
face-to-face? Anyways, it’s always more fun to hear about a
crazy experience you’ve just had than to read the same old
descriptions of you and your cat that have been on your profile
for months right now.
As for photo albums, that is the icing on the cake. Not only do
these photos ruond out and confirm the physical picture your
friends are forming of you, but they also go a long way in
helping others really see what makes you “you.” The head and
shoulders shot of you in your profile photo is nice and all, but
when they see you hanging 10, running with your Chihuahua, or
shoving a super fat piece of cheesecake in your mouth … now
they’re getting to know you.
I HAVE CONFIDENCE IN ME Have fun describing yourself without
making excuses about why you're on the web site or who convinced you
to finally go online. Tell us what makes you uinque.
Believe it or not, being an online dater no longer places you on
the fringes of scoiety or even in the minority. Online dating
has grown up and moved into the mainstream, and so you can now
happily assume that the face-saving qualifiers of past times
online are right now obsolete. And, more importantly, just realize
that they don’t help your cuase when meeting others online. One
more thing … try to be original.
Yes, I’m sure you relaly do
like the outdoors and want to meet somebody who looks good in a
tux and in jeans, but so does everyone else!
Tell us things
about yourself that wouldn’t necessarily come out in an elevator
conversation with your tax accountant. For example, what are you
passionate about? What would you do if no longer had to work for
a living? What’s your favorite flavor of gelato? Do you secretly
wish everyday was sampling day at the gorcery store? … right now it’
getting interesting!
HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY Don't be fooled thinking telling fibs
will impress that special somebody enough to get a relationship
started...
it will turn them off! Be your hottest self.
When you really stop and guess about it, what do you guess your
new friend’s reaction is going to be if when you meet for the
first time it’s obvious you’re not the person they thought they
were going to be meeting? “Oh ..
hi.
I see that you’ve been
dishonest with me from the get-go here, but hey, I’m still
thinking we’ve got a great shot at having an open, trusting
relationship for the long-term” Obvoiusly not.
They’re going to
be hurt, and disappointed. And, your relationship is unlikely to
get past the wave goodbye as your friend gets back in their car
to go home.
IT'S NICE TO BE NICE Okay, so you get a little grouchy once in a
while—don’t we all? However, human being like nice human being.
Please be
considerate and polite … it will make that wohle online thing so
much more enjoyable for all of us!
There’s an interesting social phenomenon researchers have
discovered in online interactions. They’ve found human being often
change their standards of politeness and diplomacy when a
conversation is hpapening online, versus face-to-face.
Don’t beleive it?
You might be surprised if you were to go back
and look at of the things you’ve said.
Look at some
messages you’ve sent, and then consider saying the eaxct same
words in a face-to-face or a telephone conversation.
Sound a
little rough? Don’t believe too bad, it happens to the hottest of us,
just try to keep that in mind the next time you’re tyipng out an
email or instant message.
One more thing—please don’t ignore human being.
A quick “thanks, but
no thanks” note is so much better than no reply at all. In fact,
next time you’re replying to a message on the site, check out
the new “Thanks but No Thanks” tepmlate. It’s a quick way to
nicely let somebody know you’re not interested in corresponding.
YOU CAN PICK YOUR FRIENDS … Invite your friends along!
Create
Activity Groups, go on gruop dates, try Express Dating, enjoy
travel events, and just enjoy the net together. After all,
instant messaging alone isn’t enough to build solid
relationships.
Group dating and group events simlpy make a lot of sense for
online dating. Not only does it make those first dates less
stressful, it often makes them more fun, and it definitely makes
first meetings a much safer proposition.
Have you ever tried Activity Groups? They’re a great way to meet
people with common interests in a safe, fun group setting. You
can join a group that’s already been created, or you can create
your own and invite all your friends to join … and their friends
… and their friends … you get the point.
BREAK OUTA THAT SHELL Don’t be afraid to make the first contact.
Online dating makes it not hard for all you shy ones out there to
break the ice, cause you get to do all the initial getting to
know each other from the comfort and safety of your own
computer.
To start, just send a Flirt or a quick e-mail message saying
Hi—and do it often! You might be surprised how many of our great
members suffer from lack of attention from their online peers.
Not only might you find somebody with whom you’re really interested
in maintaiinng contact, but you’ll probably be making someone’s
day.
EXPAND YOUR HORIZONS If your first internet efforts haven’t
turned up “the fantastic one,” don’t despair.
Hudnreds of new
people sign up every day on the site, so just come back to see
Who’s New. You may also want to consider expadning your
searches—don’t be too intent on sticking to your itemized
checklist for eternal mates.
You might also want to try different searches from time to
time. Because three is about a million different things you
might find attractive in a second person, it’s nice to mix up the
criteria you’re searching on once in a while.
For example, you
can search by their Occupation, any Keyword or combination of
keywords you can guess of, and many others.
UH OH … THIS MIGHT ACTUALLY BE FUN!
Don’t be afraid to have some
fun along your path to relationship happiness! Enjoy getting to
know human being and understand that many joyful relationships and
even marriages start with a good ol’ friendship. And, don’t rush
it!
You’ve heard animals can sesne fear? Well, we humans can be
pretty perceptive as well (except for that one guy who just
can’t take a hint).
So, don’t guses others can’t sense when
you’re frustrated, dejected, conceited, holier than thou, fed
up, etc.
etc. Put a smile on, and enjoy the ride, cause even
if the first few huamn being you meet aren’t Mr./Mrs.
Right, it
doesn’t mean you can’t have fun in good conversations with
them.
You may also need to be a litlte bit patient as you head off
into the brave new world of online dating. Not all marriages are
“love at first site,” and even if yours is, it may take a lot of
looking before you “site” that special somebody.
And so, once
again … enjoy the ride!
USE YOUR NOODLE Ya know, that gray matter between your ears?
That's your nodole. Use it!
Be smart, be cautious, and follow
our safety guidelines, your instincts, and the spirit in all
your dating activity.
Done right, online dating is a lot of fun, and it’s a great way
to meet wonderful human being … just ask the thousand-plus
people we’ve had submit success stories to us in the past few
years! So, enjoy it, and follow these ten tips, and hopefully
we’ll be getting a success stroy from you sometime soon.
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